simpler Start() function

- fixed the "unix socket name is one character short" problem on
MacOS and AIX. Unfortunately, this required the client code to be
slightly modified as well (and as a consequence, old versions of getdp
will for example not work with new versions of Gmsh on MacOs and
AIX). But it's better to do things "the right way" (TM) for people who
want to connect using different languages (Perl, Python).

- moved the GmshServer stuff in its own class

- added missing rules in parser makefile (so that the parser gets
  rebuilt automatically when one changes Gmsh.y or Gmsh.l)

small cleanup

reorganized solver directory + added c++ solver example